I (doctoral candidate) met a colleague from a different university on the way to a conference. After a lengthy monologue about his department, he got on to talk about a colleague “who clearly is gay”. He had nothing against gays, but he found it unpleasant that he would have to share a hotel room with this particular colleague during the conference. He would just have to make sure to always sleep with his back to the wall. Moreover, he was upset that women in his field were able to access special support programs. He was now considering whether he should simply ‘dress up’ as a trans woman to benefit from those programs.