After the defense of my doctoral thesis. Before that, a half-hourlong presentation of my thesis followed by an hour of scrupulous questioning by the dissertation committee to test whether I am now a rock-solid scholar. The usual. After the announcement of my grade, there was a parade of congratulators: first the reviewers, then the other committee members, and in the queue after them colleagues, friends, family, some students, etc. Then it was the turn of one of the committee members who already knew me as a student and then as a full-time research assistant at the department for many years. He was beaming all over, visibly pleased with my success but also interested in the topic, which he had found very stimulating, as he told me. And then he said this, “Really, Ms. XY, hats off, I have a lot of respect for your achievement and that you have managed all this so well BESIDES HOUSEHOLD AND FAMILY!” Other than, “thank you so much,” I didn’t know what to say in response as I was completely perplexed. I knew he wanted to say something nice, but why did my academic work seem like a sideline to him? What I had actually heard was “Back to the kitchen now!” Besides, had anyone ever praised my male partner for successfully working full-time in addition to doing the household and caring for his family? (No, of course not!) Now, I tell this story to students when I want to explain to them what ‘symbolic violence’ (Bourdieu) actually looks like and to be able to precisely address the euphemistic sexism which poisons this seemingly friendly praise …